The hidden side-effects of workplace ghosting
Me faded out like a ghost in a normal image, just how when someone’s ghosting they slip out of sight, or think they do!
Ghosting is cowardly and lazy in dating..
But are you doing it at work without realising, and bashing your credibility and confidence in the process?
Ghosting leaves someone hanging, without a word or explanation, as if they don’t matter. It’s unpleasant, rude and inconsiderate.
But for the ghost (or ghoster ..you take your pick of spooky title) there’s a hidden side-effect.
When you ghost, you’re avoiding the let-down, the bad news, the confrontation, the disappointment, the explanation, or the saying NO. The list goes on.
But you’re being a complete coward.
Increasingly, you find yourself uneasy about delivering any bad news. And, being less straightforward and transparent, you become less trusted.
Trust underpins EVERYTHING human.
Then people become wary, and don’t turn to you but to someone else instead.
However, if you take it on, take the discomfort and take the news to them, you earn trust.
And when clients say ‘I can’t say that!’ (the thing they’re putting off spitting out) then we get beyond all the imposter BS and make it straightforward in their language.
We get past the usually ridiculous and extreme situations their brain's predicting. Then they smile and realise it’s not that bad.
And when you’ve done it once, you build the bravery to do it again and again, earning respect at the same time.
It’s much better than you being that person with all the stuff, that didn’t get said or sent, which causes jams you don’t even realise.
have you been ghosted?
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